When I was a teenager, I admired and looked up to many successful women over 50. I really thought they had their lives together. They seemed happy, stable and confident. It was a shock to me when I turned 50 a few years back to realize that I was not a true reflection of what I had foresaw as midlife. I was still struggling with my career, juggling kids at home and my finances were no where near where I had hoped they would be by that age.
And that really got me down.
I set myself on a path to figure out what I wanted. And one of the first things I did was quit my job to look after my very sick mother. I was sooooo done with feeling guilty and pressed for time so I did something drastic. Really all I did was something different. And that change set me on a very different path. My mother did pass a few years later but instead of going back to traditional work, I threw myself into my blog and re-defined my career. A few short years later and I would definitely say that I am happy, stable and confident. I am that woman over 50 I wanted to be.
Have I got everything figured out and is everyday sunshine and roses? Not even close. But, I feel like I am better equipped to deal with any of life’s problems that come my way.
I am happy. And to me, that is success.
The real secret of your success lies within how you define success. Is it money, fame, recognition? Career, position respect? Family, marriage, love? Or maybe you define success as being able to follow your passions and dreams. Perhaps your definition is even simpler, happiness. Or maybe it’s a combination of all of the above.
No two people will define success the same and it also changes as we mature and our circumstances change. So comparing yourself to someone else as a means to defining your own personal success is self-sabotage. It will only make you feel worse about yourself and hinder your progress.
And that sucks.
Cause listen up. No one knows for sure what someone else’s life is really like. How many times have you assumed that someone else’s success was based on who they knew and/or pure luck? I know I have been guilty of that a few times. And while there may be a few instances where those things may have been the catalyst for someone else’s success, more often than not, the opposite is true.
We like to believe believe in “easy” success. Like winning the lottery. It means we don’t have to work at it. But that could not be further from the truth. Ask any successful woman over fifty how she achieved her success and you will be astonished at her journey.
And you know what? Someone else may look at you and think you are successful through their eyes!
So if you are looking to up-size your life, be that woman over 50 you always dreamed about, here are a few bits of wisdom I hope you can use.
25 Quotes That Reveal The Secrets Of Successful Women
Show me a woman that knows where she’s going and I’ll show you a woman who’s been lost and doesn’t ever want to go back.
Show me a woman who is an overnight success and I will show you a woman who’s worked hard for years.
Show me a woman who has it all together and I’ll show you a woman who has failed more times than she can count.
Show me a woman that has everything and I’ll show you a woman who always strives for more.
Show me a woman that never quits and I’ll show you a woman who has been told “no” a lot.
Show me a woman who has overcome huge obstacles and I will show you a woman who takes one small step at a time.
Show me a woman who has a positive attitude and I’ll show you a woman who has been in the depths of failure and refused to let it sink them.
Show me a woman who is super focused and I’ll show you a woman who has travelled aimlessly before finding a direction became her mission.
Show me a woman who is passionate and I’ll show you a woman who has been told they can’t do that.
Show me a woman that shares her dreams and I’ll show you a woman who inspires others.
Show me a woman that believes you can do it and I’ll show you a woman who has had a helping hand.
Show me a woman that has a great skill or talent and I will show you a woman who works hard at it everyday.
Show me a woman that is really lucky and I’ll show you a woman who leaves nothing to chance.
Show me a woman who is a great conversationalist and I will show you a woman who is a great listener.
Show me a woman that believes in themselves and I’ll show you a woman who sets goals and follows through.
Show me a woman who is great teacher and I’ll show you a woman who never stops acquiring new knowledge.
Show me a woman that has great friends and I’ll show you a woman who gives more than she receives.
Show me a woman that loves her job and I’ll show you a woman who followed her passion not money.
Show me a woman that always looks happy and I’ll show you a woman who practices gratitude everyday.
Show me a woman that seems to do everything right and I’ll show you a woman who accepts honest, constructive criticism.
Show me a woman that was in the right place at the right time and I’ll show you a woman who has been in that exact spot many, many times with far less stellar results.
Show me a woman that has successfully launched her own business and I’ll show you a woman who has learned through trial and error.
Show me a woman that has “made” it and I’ll show you a woman who works even harder to stay at the top.
Show me a successful woman and I’ll show you a woman who is not afraid of failure.
Show me a woman that can achieve her goals and I’ll show you the woman in the mirror.