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Grey Hair:When Is It Time To Let Nature Take It’s Course

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I’m trying to remember a time when my mom wasn’t a blonde. I look at older pictures of her and she had really dark hair just like me when she was young. I’m not sure when her transition to lighter hair was but she was definitely way younger than I am right now.

I never really noticed her grey hair roots coming in.

The blonde seemed to camouflage the grey hair. That was only a few years ago and she is 85 now. I convinced her to finally stop colouring her hair and let it go grey.

Now, her hair is thicker and a beautiful silver-grey. Absolutely no one noticed when she made the switch. To be fair, all of her friends are her age and their eyesight isn’t the best. lol

Fascinated with women that have had the guts to stop colouring, I talked to a woman at work one day that had let her hair go completely grey. She is slightly older than I am. She said she did have dark hair like me too when she was younger. She keeps her hair in a pixie cut, so for her, the complete transformation did not take long at all.

So, here I am again, staring into the mirror and all I can see is the grey hair roots advancing. What is it with the one day it’s fine and the next day your bangs are too long and the grey roots look like they’ve gained an inch. Off to the stylist I go, thinking this it, let’s go blonde. I could do with a change and I think blonde is the only colour I didn’t try out when I was a teen. This will be awesome!

“Really? You want to go all blonde?” my hairdresser asks.

“Yes, I’m tired of noticing these grey hair roots just one week after colouring!” I reply confidently.

“But you have no grey at the back of your head at all. It’s all in the front.”

“That’s ridiculous! Is that normal? Why?!”

“So you can see it.”

“Same again please and I’ll re-book for six weeks”


UPDATE 2019: I wavered for an entire year after I originally wrote this post but officially transition to grey hair at the end of 2015. It has been almost 4 years since the change and I admit there have been times that I have wanted to go back to colouring.

It is short-lived though as I remember how bad I was at the upkeep and honestly, being totally grey haired is not as bad as having grey roots literally all the time. I love my grey hair but I know that deciding to embrace grey hair is a very personal decision. You should do what makes you feel good. If that means colouring until your dying day, then go for it. No one should tell anyone how to live or look. As a woman over 50, you have earned your right to do as you please. 

Drastically changing your hair can seem like a momentous decision. This is my transition story, from long and brown to short and grey. This is only the beginning.
Elena Peters December 2017

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Katherine Grabner

Saturday 23rd of March 2024

I have a auburn color & normanally mousy brown. I am quite pale & not sure if my silver Grey will suit me?

Elena Peters

Tuesday 26th of March 2024

I am very pale too and had dark brown hair. I feel my grey looks much more natural. You won't really know till you try it though I must say it does take time to get used to.


Sunday 18th of February 2024

Hi! I am not here to in any way dis your ability to choose the best product for you. However, I would like to share some of the knowledge I have gained through my 17 years as a hairstylist. #1) Pantene shampoo and conditioner is loaded with protein. Protein is good after a chemical service. However, continued use of the product will result in excessive protein being deposited to your hair and can lead to dry, brittle, and unmanageable hair. Pantene also contains excessive amounts of parabens which will result in a build up of wax onto the hair shaft and hair that feels like a candlestick. To keep your gray hair beautiful and vibrant, I would recommend Matrix, So Silver shampoo and conditioner. Additionally, if it happens that you should need build up removed, use a good clarifying shampoo and/or add a little baking soda to your regular shampoo. That should do the trick. #2) Just as with the Pantene, the Keratin smoothing treatment is for hair after a chemical service. These products are to restore the proteins that have been stripped from the hair during these services. If you eliminate the Pantene, you probably wouldn't require the keratin frizz treatment.

I hope this might help someone. I hope I didn't step on any toes. That was not my intention whatsoever!


Saturday 2nd of September 2023

I am 67 and have been dying my hair for many years. I have medium brown hair that gets very brassy as the color washes out. Decided to go grey in June. My hairdresser applied a toner on July 25, but I’m getting brassy again with many grays underneath and a “skunk line” at my part. Do you recommend highlights or to continue with just the toner? Thank goodness for the masking color sprays!

Robyn Edward

Wednesday 3rd of January 2024

@Sue, My advice find a hairdresser that is willing to let you go gray. I'm 45 I've been letting my go since not this Oct 30th the yr before a slow process I'm almost there. I found a hairdresser that understands it's in my genes the white hair I was fighting 20 yrs or so.The hair dresser can do what is called low lights. They might be able to remove the color. In my case they couldn't I dyed my hair blonde blenched it. I don't recommend doing it killed my hair a lot of treatment and haircuts. I hope this helps. Depending on the length your hair or your desired length. It could take awhile it's taken me over a yr I'm almost there a couple haircuts possibly 3 maybe less I'm due one very soon and a treatment.

Elena Peters

Tuesday 5th of September 2023

If you like the way the toner looks, use it. If you don't, I would recommend highlights to mask the demarcation line.

Kelly Nichilo

Saturday 12th of August 2023

I've been checking out beautiful high/low lights for natural grey hair I'm gonna embrace every one of my Grey's and I've earned every single one too

Kelly Nichilo

Saturday 12th of August 2023

Yesterday I cut my hair for the first time in over a year and when it was finished the grey was totally noticable, although I've decided to embrace my grey hair but addhigh//low lights to make it look less boring. Th

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