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How I Got My Midlife Mojo Back & Re-Invented My Life

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I’m sitting in the Istanbul airport. It’s sassy and modern, filled with sparkly duty-free shops and attractive people. My layover is a couple of hours before my flight to Rome. It’s a bit of a surprise I’m here.

Not too many years ago I was a washed up empty nester, a sad depressed soccer-mom with no clue what to do next. The bloom had fallen off my stem in a dull and squishy mess, and I watched from a lonely window as fresh new school children of happy new moms kicked my old bloom into the gutter thoughtlessly on their way to the first day of school. Ewww.

See, I can still get maudlin about the whole thing.

It was actually a rather depressing situation. My kids were gone, I had lost all my stuff in the financial mess of 2008. And I mean ALL my stuff: my houses, my cars, my money, my relationship, my businesses, my confidence, my garden, my cat. Most especially my mojo, it was gone too.

At a time I expected to be settled and comfortable, my world had fallen apart around me.

Back to sitting in the airport in Turkey. I’m no longer depressed, sad or maudlin. I never did get back all my stuff, my garden, my relationship or my cat. But I’m happy and very excited about my life and my future.

I found my mojo.

How did that happen and what was the journey like? That’s the point of this story.

It wasn’t easy. As a matter of fact, it was very, very hard. Being a midlife woman that’s going through a tough transition can be a lonely place. We’re not exactly revered as being at our cutest, and no one seems to want us alone at their dinner parties. I didn’t have the adorable factor of a homeless puppy, although at times I felt close to being one.

I was scared. I often felt my life was over and I had blown it. I didn’t know what to do next and how I was going to survive. I felt like a loser. I looked around at my friends living much different lives and wondered what I had missed that they obviously got.

“I’m so scared.”

“I’m too old to start over.”

“I have no idea what to do next.”

It was a very dark time for me, yet I could not bring myself to share with anyone about how bad it really was. I was too embarrassed about my life.

I did anything I could to keep myself afloat financially. I built up one of my businesses that had just about died. I learned to coupon like a mad woman. I lived on air. I cried, a lot.

Attitude was next. I started focusing on what mattered and not what looked good. My pastimes became connected to being outdoors, something that had always fed me. I had a strong foundation in positive mindset and I relied heavily on what helped me spiritually.

One small step at a time, I have built a life that works for me.

Today, my life looks much different and feels much different from the old one. I had to let go of what I had lost, and parts of that still feel sad. However, my new life is filled with happy times and exciting adventures.

I’m currently on my way to two months in Florence. Why? Because it sounded life fun. What a wonderful life that is! I’ve got a little apartment in downtown, a 2 minute walk to the Duomo and I plan to have a wonderful time exploring my new city.

Related: How to Vacation in Italy for Two Months on a Budget

Next on my agenda, after a fun summer in my new home of Lake Tahoe, might be Panama or Ecuador.

My world feels like an endless list of possibilities. I’m no longer sad or scared.

As part of my new profession, I’ve started interviewing other women who have gone, or are going through, a tough Midlife transition. Now surprisingly their words are the same:

“I’m so scared.”

“I’m too old to start over.”

“I don’t know what to do next.”

It’s tough getting kicked hard at a time when you thought life would feel warm, safe and comfortable. It’s painful and often so unexpected. But I assure you, there are still many good times to come. 

Redefining yourself after 50 feels invigorating and empowering. Your life is not over, it’s just different than you expected. In fact, it could turn out even better. You don’t know until you face that anxiety head on and decide to change what you can. One small step at a time.

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Suz montgomery

Wednesday 31st of August 2016

Aha ! Found you here, long time ago in a lifetime far far away.... Suz

Kimberly Montgomery

Wednesday 31st of August 2016

Suz! What a fun surprise! I hope you're doing well. Drop me a note. Kimberly XO

Lisa Condie

Wednesday 30th of March 2016

Brava! Having just met you in Florence, I can attest to the fact that your mojo is indeed back, and wonderful to see!


Sunday 14th of February 2016

What an enlightening post!!


Sunday 14th of February 2016

Love this. I'm inspired. It's never too late to start over & sometimes a big kick in the pants is what it takes to get us out of our comfort zone. Thx for sharing. Florence sounds heavenly!


Thursday 11th of February 2016

Have a wonderful time in Florence, what an amazing experience.

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